A solid relationship is built on mutual understanding, trust that is consciously built over time and small and some larger gestures that makes the other person feel special and loved. This time and effort should also be persistent and not just something that fizzles out after the honeymoon period, love is a verb, a doing word that requires regular watering and care. Here are 3 aspects of relationship that happy couples enjoy:
Be best friends
Being good friends is one of the characteristics of a good marriage. When you are best friends and confide in each other, will you be able to be yourselves completely, without judgement, with understanding, respect and compromise. In a marriage, spouses who are best friends rely on each other and share most things.
They share their deepest fears with one another and their happiest moments. When you are so emotionally close with your partner, you can talk to them about anything without fear of inciting an argument. Having healthy discussions and listening to each other’s points of view is one of the characteristics of a successful marriage.
They can tell each other anything without worrying about what the other person will think, say or respond. There is no fear and doubt about the security of the relationship and they make each other their priority and compromise for each other. It is about making each other happy and respecting each of their needs. They creatively handle differences with humour and curiosity.
Grow together
No one is perfect and no relationship or marriage is perfect. The more you invest in your marriage, the more you grow together. Relationships take time to evolve and get stronger over time. Holding grudges of the past will only install conflict cycles, conflict needs to be handled effectively and completely so that it heals. Without the willingness to grow, the past will consume the future and you may end up in painful conflict dances. Only when both spouses are willing to learn from their mistakes, understand their triggers, be vulnerable together and grow as a couple can they move past them and focus on building their future together
Show COMMITMENT
Commitment is necessary, from both partners, to make the relationship work. And if you find yourself questioning your commitment – this needs to be addressed. You need to understand why do you feel this way? What happened that causes me to lose confidence in my marriage? What can we do to restore our connection and commitment to love each other? It’s important to be dedicated to celebrating the good times, engaging your partner with curiosity and interest and openly talking about issues affecting you both.
Couples that show commitment tend to appreciate each other more and try their best to share responsibilities and work together as a team. Appreciating each other helps in boosting each other’s self-worth and partners feel loved and happy that their efforts are being acknowledged by you.